In the good old days a proposal involved a man buying a ring and surprising his lady friend by getting down on one knee to ask her to take his hand in marriage.
Of course, proposals have become more and more elaborate as time goes on. Think underwater proposals, horses fashioned with unicorn horns, and hidden camera crews.
With or without the bells and whistles, it is an occasion that should be marked by happiness and excitement to begin the next chapter.
Diamonds may be a girls best friend, but in a perfect world, the diamond is more of a symbol of commitment from the girl’s best friend.
Alas, the world is not perfect, and sometimes the diamond isn’t exactly what the bride-to-be has in mind.
One mumsnet user shared her disappointment about her “small” engagement ring online in hopes of garnering some sympathy and advice.
However, her cry for help left some people outraged.
The user shares:
DP proposed and presented me with the ring he’d chosen – a diamond solitaire in white gold. I was so happy and excited to accept but was disappointed when I first saw the ring. The first word that entered my head was ‘small’.
There’s nothing to dislike about the type of ring per se, as a diamond solitaire would have been my choice, but it’s the whole thing – the colour of the gold, the setting, the small stone and relatively chunky shoulders.
His salary is nearing a 6 figure sum and he’s usually very generous. Having seen the receipt I know he paid £1,300 for it – which is a lot less than I would have imagined he would have spent on such a significant piece of jewelry.
He’ll be more disappointed in me for making a fuss over it when, in his eyes, it fits and there’s nothing actually wrong with it rather than being disappointed that I’m not truly happy with it.
Someone at work apparently told him that ‘if she makes it all about the ring, then she’s not the girl for you’.
Ideally I would have loved for us to have chosen a ring together and made a special day finding one we both liked.
As it’s something I’ll be wearing every day and is such a special piece of jewelry I wanted to really love it and I just don’t.
Has anyone else been in this situation? What did you do?
As you can imagine, many people who saw this post were appalled by how ungrateful the bride-to-be was seeming.
The ring, cost roughly $1675 US, which is certainly more than many women would expect.
However, cost is beside the point according to many users.
If you’d said you didn’t like the style I’d have been fairly sympathetic. But if it’s simply not big and flashy enough…it sounds like you’re more interested in showing off the ring than you are in him.
Another user thinks her fiancé’s friend at work was onto something,
Blimey. I’d have been delighted; talk about being ungrateful, the person at work is 100% right.
Whereas others were more sympathetic,
You will get flamed for this and people will call you grabby but I can see where you are coming from – not the cost per se but the fact u will be wearing it every day and u are not totally in love with it. I can see both viewpoints.
Do you think this woman is justified in being disappointed that her future husband didn’t spend enough on her ring?