For those among us who say that age is just a number, here comes a true test of that philosophy. Of course, age is way more than ‘just a number’. A person who has graduated college is immeasurably different from someone about to start it. Someone in their 30s, with tons of dating experience, is going to be different than someone in their early 20s, barely coming into an understanding of what they want in a partner.
Some relationships, however, break the rules. They work across age and time, and it’s a beautiful reminder that ‘the heart wants what it wants’.
Meet Angela and CJ, who met each other over Facebook in February of 2015.
Angela, who is from the United Kingdom, met CJ when he reached out to her from Nigeria, Africa. Even though they’re 45 years apart, their relationship took off when Angela flew to Africa only two months after they had first met. The two got married then and there.
When she returned to England, however, things took a turn for the worse – CJ’s visa was denied, and the pair were separated. Angela has spent over 20,000 English pounds trying to get him into the UK, and CJ, a young computer engineer, has been relentlessly pursuing a visa so they can live together.
Angela, a retired taxi driver, has children who are younger than CJ. They initially thought that CJ was taking their mom for a ride, but upon investigating his Facebook, they concluded that he was an honest broker.
“We chatted for hours, about our families and each others’ hobbies – it was like we’d known each other for years.”
Their connection was so strong that she flew out to Nigeria to marry him without ever meeting him in person. Talk about faith!
“I was so taken a back when he asked me to marry him out of the blue. There was such an amazing chemistry between us, I knew he was my soulmate.”
CJ has tried to get a tourist visa, but has also been denied, as authorities believe he would refuse to leave the country. The couple are still optimistic, however, and Angela has visited CJ twice in Nigeria so far. Their last hope is that CJ will be able to get a student’s visa to complete a master’s degree in computer science. That way, the two will finally be able to live together in England.
It’s a crazy story, and Angela’s ex-husband is pretty skeptical. They divorced 18 years prior, and haven’t really kept in touch, but hearing about this new relationship opened up a sore wound:
“The first time I knew about it was when I read the papers. She has been scammed by a man who just wants to get into the country. She has done it now and will have to deal with the consequences.”
What do you think? Are Angela and CJ for real, and if they are, do you think they’ll be able to get the visa they so desperately need to stay together? They’ve already been married, so it seems their fates are tied. Surely, if push comes to shove, Angela could move to Nigeria with him. Either way, we wish them the best.